So this next part is going to be hard. It means backing off of my instinctive responses and keeping my pain to myself. I get this about letting them fail. But maybe I’m afraid of failing myself? Do other moms also share that?
Please say yes,
So-Called Mom
All parents fear failure. Dads and Moms both. The trick is to raise kids who are resilient enough to overcome our failure and make their own mistakes instead of replicating ours.
So true. I have noticed very recently that FEAR has driven most of my parenting–ehhh, not a good thing. So I’m correcting it–better late than never, right? Because its a habit that I’ve honed for almost 2 decades now, it takes constant consciousness and me reminding myself that kids ARE resilient and they learn the best when I’m not always there for them. I’m curious about the age(s) of your kid(s) and what you’re doing to be conscious of fear driven parenting….or alternative parenting?
My son is 24 and my daughter 28. My daughter is having a rough time of it, having left a career in gemology to go back to school. She wants to be a museum curator.
My son has a degree in government and is discovering just how useless it is. He is still in the process of learning from the school of hard knocks.