It’s back to school season everywhere and the one thing I can promise you on my page is a alot of everything, age-wise. Of course, there is no lack of conversation, or in this case: me asking you, dear readers, for advice.
Take my oldest Jake, for instance: One big struggle with parenting is that it’s easy to get comfortable in a “time zone”. Of course we take great notice when our kids become teens, but after that? It’s a fine line to walk to total failure. You spend the rest of that teen-time struggling to get out of the way so they can develop some independence, only to learn at the last minute, they still don’t have any–or at least the kind they need to get off to a successful start.
There must be some parental gray area between: fill out this application or email your teacher, and straight up doing it for them– but I have yet to find it. And trying to find the wide spectrum of choices that exists with a teenager isn’t easy when they’ve adopted the typical this-or-that attitude. For example: If college is not an option currently, what will you do to make sure you are personally developing, and not rotting in front of a screen? Not, All I know is that I’m likely not going to college. And that’s it?
It’s straight up painful to know that my kid can shoot for the stars and land among them, yet he doesn’t even try to get off the couch, or live beyond mine. What is going on here?
I have poured over parenting books, hoping for a miracle elixir and have turned up nothing. It’s hard to know what needs doing at this stage, only a handful of months before (possibly, dependent) adulthood. And while I like having him around, I do not want him to get comfortable as described in the video above because his entire life is waiting for him to be awesome.
I’m determined to get this figured out, so if you have any words of wisdom, I’m open.
T-Minus 9 months and counting…
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