Kid Interview: Parent Bullies & Suburban Social Engineering

I just stumbled upon this parenting fad that’s being labelled Suburban Social Engineering. Have you heard of it? I first discovered it here when looking into reasons why moms bully other people’s kids. Suburban Social Engineering is when a parent (typically the mom) bullies other children to maintain their child’s social status by excluding anyone that might taint their child’s image of prestige–And that it’s most common in suburbia. This is helicopter parenting on crack. I mean, it’s one thing to be controlling your own kids’ every move, but walking all over children that aren’t yours because of…um…maintaining the appearance of affluence…? That’s pretty gross behavior. What’s worse is the most unsettling part: this style of parenting is being heavily linked to teen suicide. Did your stomach just hit the floor like mine?

I think it’s safe to say that this series has been a wild ride that’s far from over.

To review where all of this is coming from: My first post was about deciphering what’s mean and what’s bullying. Which then uncovered the truth about what was really going on.

Finally, I decided to put my 9-year-old Pascal on camera, in lieu of rambling on about it myself:


Could it be the real adult in this situation is really the kid in the room? I’m heartbroken, but determined to keep her fighting the good fight.

So, what do you say, moms? What can we do to talk to our kids about sticking up for other people? How would you help your child remain strong through this? I look to you, moms, for help.

Putting my foot down HARD,

So-Called Mom

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    • Thanks so much. It’s hard because I wanted to step in on this situation and correct this for her. I wanted to demand resolve. But the fact of the matter remains is that there are lessons for kids to learn and they are simple, though difficult to accept: people can just be assholes sometimes and that’s the end of it. So the lesson is just: you did the best you could with what you had to work with and move on. The good news is that kids do that much better than adults, haha! Because I still get ticked off about this raw deal, even though she could care less now. Thanks for your sentiments!!

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